Expectations

I discovered something. When I go around with only one boob and no prosthesis, nobody notices. I mean, I went to the infusion unit at Georgetown on Thursday to see a friend and a lot of the nurses said hi and asked how I was doing. I told them I'd had my mastectomy and that i wasn't wearing a prostheses -- I mean I did everything but pull up my shirt and still they were surprised. They got it, finally, with a jolt!

I think when people are expecting to see two boobs they mostly see two boobs. Maybe if I walk by a construction site or some other place where guys are actually particularly checking out women's boobs, maaaaaaybe....... but I will probably have to go do it to decide.

This discovery that people see what they expect sounds kinda familiar -- I think maybe this is one of those things I rediscover every couple of years. And not only me -- there's a lyric from a Simon and Garfunkle song I've always liked that goes "a man sees what he wants to see and disregards the rest." That's not exactly the same but it's pretty close.